Listening to Learn

“Learning is a result of listening, which in turn leads to even better listening and attentiveness to the other person.  In other words, to learn from the child, we much have empathy, and empathy grows as we learn.” Alice Miller, Polish Psychologist and World Renowned Author   The study of language begins before we utter…

Don’t be boring…

“Bore, n.: A person who talks when you wish him to listen.” Ambrose Bierce – Editor, Journalist, Writer A few years ago, I watched a self-help video on how to “network’ a room and become an “influencer.” By following a few simple steps, I could be someone others would consider worthy of befriending.  There were…

I was listening, but…

“Just because I didn’t do what you told me, doesn’t mean I wasn’t listening to you!” Hank Ketcham, American cartoonist who created Dennis the Menace We think that when people listen, they agree. When someone nods in understanding, we assume it means consensus.  We may prefer harmony in our dialogues for it brings a sensation of well-being, but disagreements are the…

Who is Listening?

  “One learns more from listening than speaking. And both the wind and the people who continue to live close to nature still have much to tell us which we cannot hear within university walls.” Thor Heyerdahl When I was a teenager, I read the story of the Kon-Tiki expedition at one sitting, finishing in…

A Ship Is Safe

 A ship is safe  in harbour, but that’s not what ships are for.” William G.T. Shedd It is easy to talk about courage when the sun is shining and you are surrounded by a support network that strengthens your resolve.  In fact, courage is often masked by “group think.”  We feel security within community.  At…

The Man in the Arena

A dialogue on courage would be incomplete without Teddy Roosevelt’s “The Man in the Arena.”  On April 23, 1910, Teddy Roosevelt gave a speech entitled, “Citizenship in a Republic,” at the Sorbonne, Paris. Thirty-five pages long, the unforgettable passage is found on the seventh page. Many years later, Nelson Mandela gave a copy of this…