“Bore, n.: A person who talks when you wish him to listen.”
Ambrose Bierce – Editor, Journalist, Writer
A few years ago, I watched a self-help video on how to “network’ a room and become an “influencer.” By following a few simple steps, I could be someone others would consider worthy of befriending. There were 10 tips, all of which I have forgotten, except for the first one. If you want people to listen to your ideas, don’t be boring. Our greatest fear appears to be that of looking dull and tiresome. We go to great lengths to be interesting and attract attention, whether through our appearance and dress, our professional titles, or through witty dialogue. In effect, we strive to be entertainers. Yet, there is an elegantly simple truism.
The listener is generally the most popular person in any crowd.
“A good listener is not only popular everywhere, but after a while he gets to know something.”
Wilson Mizner – Playwright, Raconteur, and Entrepreneur.